Well, I'm back from traveling the world, my friends. I know it's been a real long while since my last blog, but I do hope to see you more regularly here from now on. And I do mean that more than my line about going regularly to the gym, don't worry :-)
So... hearing the term 'sexy' thrown around quite a bit recently, I've been thinking: what does makes someone sexy? That’s right, no-one can quite put their finger on it. But, when someone is described as ‘sexy’, it can be understood that they have something alluring about them, the whole them – and not merely their external/physical attributes. Something that others can’t necessarily explain or articulate, but a distinct, confident air is clear.
Contrary to what can be seen in so many celebrities and their mimicking teens, sexiness is not determined by what – and how little – you wear. I’ve met many a sexy person dressed quite modestly, and yet that air is there. Clothing, I believe, actually enhances a sense of mystique and allure. Not to mention that, it requires a great confidence today to believe ‘more is more’ when it comes to dress.
Take a look at some of the celebs today, the ones whom more often than not are wearing less and less, more and more often! One example I will give is of someone whom I can hardly recollect in anything more than a skimpy slip dress, let alone a bikini: Paris Hilton. Sure, she has a pretty, sweet face. Sure, she even has a really refined look about her. But watch her in, for example, that Carl Jr. burger commercial she did, and tell me that anyone watching that is intrigued to know much more than what they see. What Paris has done (and allowed others to do for her) is limited her entire Self to be known as ‘what you see is what you get’.
She is a name known by many, and though she once was known only for her last name, she is now known primarily for her risqué behaviors and her easy, flippant image. Paris could be smart, talented, witty, and kindhearted. But the world wouldn’t really (care to) know that. Her body is what defines her.
Remembering the Carl Jr. burger commercial, I still cannot believe the ad was about a burger. (For those of you who haven’t seen the ‘spicy burger ad’, it shows Paris ‘washing’ a car in a skimpy bathing suit, provocatively moving her body all around it. The climax – probably more anti-climactic for many – is Paris biting into a burger.) Smart advertising? Maybe. The burgers probably sold well for some time, and then lost their allure. No doubt, Paris will too. Certainly if all she continues to focus on are the most physical aspects of life.
Soon enough, not only will her audience lose interest, but Paris too might grow bored. That’s usually when material girls tend to go spiritual. Either they age some and realize that their look isn’t that ‘hot’ anymore, or realize that they’ve exhausted their external elements and become compelled to explore deeper. To find something more meaningful in life.
It’s somewhat ironic. Normally, removing an outer layer of something would reveal an inner layer. But, with clothing, the opposite tends to be true: the more physical layers (i.e.: clothing) a person removes, the less they reveal of their true, inner self (i.e.: personality and character). Instead, they become limited to and defined only by their physical attributes.
Dressing scantily might be deemed cool by many designers, celebrities, and even friends. But who wants to let others decide who they are, and become limited to being valued and judged only for their physical assets, just because society says that’s cool? The fact is, the more you show, the less they’ll know. Just like silence is often a sign of smarts, so too is modesty a sign of confidence. And modest confidence, well, that’s hot!