I came across this article the other day and thought it would make for an interesting discussion her on Modestly Yours.
Recently a Colorado teenager named Sydney Spies was told that her choice for her senior picture would not be published in her school's yearbook because the picture was too racy. In the picture Spies is wearing a short yellow skirt and a black shawl tied about her chest in place of a shirt, leaving her shoulders and midriff bare.
Spies was told by the book's editors that the picture did not follow the school's dress code and could not be used as her senior portrait, although it could still be published as a senior ad. She was also given the opportunity to submit another photo for her senior portrait, but declined. The five editors of the year book insist the decision to not publish Spies' picture was theirs, and not the administrators, although administrators backed their decision.
“We are an award-winning yearbook. We don’t want to diminish the quality with something that can be seen as unprofessional,” said student Brian Jaramillo.
Spies, along with her mother, are now pursuing legal action against the school for supporting the editors' decision not to run the picture as a senior portrait. “I feel like they aren’t allowing me to have my freedom of expression. I think the administration is wrong in this situation, and I don’t want this to happen to other people.”
Somehow I find it hard to believe that Miss Spies is really all that concerned with "freedom of expression" for herself or anyone else. Rather, I get the sense that we're dealing with a young woman who's gotten her way so often that she doesn't know how to submit to the word, "no". Consequently, she's unable to recognize the inappropriateness of her attire for this particular publication and she's unable to accept limits placed on her by others whose authority supersedes her own in a given instance. Neither one of these facts bode well for her future as a successful adult unless she's willing to humbly accept the fact that she's not always going to get her way, and that that is a good thing, even if it doesn't seem so at the time.
I also have to question the role of her mother in this situation, showing up at protests and meetings with administrators and lawyers, all in an effort to get her daughter's racy photo published as a senior picture in a school yearbook. If Miss Spies is grown up enough to insist on her getting her way in this case, then perhaps it's time to let her take on the establishment on her own as well. It's ironic that the girl in the grown-up photo still needs mom to hold her hand when it comes time to fight to have it published.
Maybe she's not so grown-up after all? Just a thought.