Modestly Yours

Why My Kids Aren't Going to Date

I wrote a blog a bit ago on my site about kids and dating, raising teens, etc.  There have been a few books that I have been reading lately on the subject.  I just finished The Hurried Child:  Growing Up Too Fast Too Soon by David Elkind, Ph.D.  I HIGHLY recommend this book.  It was extremely illuminating.

After much thought and consideration my husband and I have made the decision to help our kids wait to date until they are much older....old enough to consider marriage.  

This position is obviously going to come under attack, but I don't see the harm in waiting and nobody is squelching anyone's feelings.  People's feelings come and go all of the time....for example, you can have a crush on your dentist, but that doesn't mean you act on it.  Self-control is a virtue.

There have been some negative reactions to my blog post.  People feel that we might be damaging our children in the long run by encouraging them to wait. 

I'd love to hear your (respectful) thoughts on the subject.  Debate is good.  Attacking and insulting people is not good.  Let's keep it decent.  

Plus, you can check out art while you're reading.  :)

 

Babies Bring Out the Best

I recently read a charming little post, the reflections of a new mom (new mom to her 9th child!!) on what a baby can do! I particularly liked this paragraph:

I’m walking down the aisle in Walmart, and here comes a wave of teenage girls, with hard mouths and stick thin legs, ironed hair, nasty, razor-slashed clothing, eyes blackened with enough eyeliner to make a raccoon gasp in shame. They strut forward in a loud and arrogant swarm. Once they’re close enough to glimpse the top of my newborn baby’s feathery little head, and they all . . . collapse. They absolutely collapse and turn to helpless, gibbering, cooing froth, utterly powerless before a bundle of pink the size of a small loaf of bread. Phew! Western civilization isn’t over yet: girls still like babies.

Read more here.  

Indeed, it is lovely to see that babies have a way of bringing out the best in us!

Happy Holidays everyone!