I wanted to quickly post a few thoughts about this blog post I came across recently. It's from the National Fatherhood Initiative's blog, called "The Father Factor," and I thought it was right on the money. In Mr. Roland Warren's post, "The Intended Consequences of an Old Spaniard" he discusses the important role that fathers play when it comes to guiding and protecting their daughters when young men start to enter the picture. Actually, it was Wendy herself who sent me the link, and I'm so glad she did. This is a topic very near and dear to my heart because of my own circumstances growing up.
I grew up without a father and it's interesting to me that my husband was actually very disappointed that he didn't get to ask my father's permission to marry me. I'd never thought much about it since I'd always known that my father wouldn't be walking me down the aisle or giving me away, etc. My husband, however, had been thinking about this subject for years, planning and preparing in his mind what he might say to the father of the girl he wanted to marry. He actually looked forward to the idea of asking for her hand. (Despite my father's absense, he still followed through with his plan and asked my mother for her permission.)
It is so heartbreaking to me the way the role of the father is now considered optional in the raising children. Certainly mothers (and single fathers) can do a great job on their own if necessary. Mine did. But that doesn't mean that it's the way it should be, you know? Every time I hear some woman declare that she doesn't need a man to have a baby I want to scream: "Um, actually you do even if you don't plan to involve him in raising the child." (Perhaps a short biology lesson would be useful at this point.) And what about the child? "You might not think that you need a man, but your child needs a father," I want to say. I certainly know that from experience.
Anyhow, I'm wondering what you guys think about the piece and the topic in general.