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May 03, 2010

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Melissa May

"Those aren't fighting words, dear" was excellent. I'm so glad you posted this Chaya. Laura Munson's book just went to the top my must-have list.

Sarah M

excellent article. Very humbling.
Thanks for sharing.
Sarah M

Sarah M

I actually ended up sharing this post to my community group, mom group, and facebook page. People are already reposting it. Thanks again,
SM

Joanne

It is good to know this woman did all she could to hold her marriage together. Christ says we are married until death parts us ... that could be quite a long time! Praise God she was willing to stick with her vows.

I just posted an article on modesty if anyone is interested in reading it. I put a direct link to it in my name.

In Christ,
Joanne in MO

Chaya Harrison

Sorry Joanne, but in Munson's case, her instinct told her that after 20 years of a solid marriage, she was not going to let go so easily. She had given it 6 months and then she would reassess. This does not mean, however, that divorce is never an option.

There are times when divorce is inevitable and sometimes necessary. If there are serious issues to work through and one spouse is unwilling to seek counseling or mediation, then at some point a person needs to reassess their situation.

Besides mental health professionals,rabbis, clergy, and other resources are indispensable in assisting couples in working through their differences.

It is ok to ask for help. It is also ok to recognize the limits of a relationship. No one should be chained to vows that have become meaningless and empty.

Chaya leah Apter

Wow! this article was amazing. I am not married yet.... but that was very interesting and I found it to be great advice for relationships. It was so touching to read about this woman who was able to be so mature in her situation. She acted with her head and not just with her heart. It must have been so hurtful to hear those words " I don't love you anymore, I don't know if I ever did".
...not only did she get through that, but she held back her initial emotions and actually thought about what the best way to handle the situation would be!
It was so inspiring to see how she was fearless and so understanding, and extremely unselfish through the whole thing. She stuck it out when times got tough... and in the end things worked out. It showed me that sometimes working hard even when it seems hopeless really pays off. Thank you so much for sharing this!

Chaya Harrison

I'm glad you enjoyed the article Chaya Leah. I think the key to a strong marriage is the "working hard" part. Sometimes we glide through phases of the relationship and we're in tune with each other and other times, things are challenging.

If we see the challenging times as opportunities for growth, we often pull through, becoming closer, and the relationship matures. Then, you look at your spouse and go....wow, we've really accomplished some amazing things! Maybe it sounds a little easier than when you're in the thick of things, but each victory strengthens your resolve to work it out.

I think that's what Munson saw in her relationship- a history of deep love and growth. She wasn't going to betray her memories of all that work so quickly.

I think her story inspires us to embrace marriage as a lifelong work-in-progress. And hey, isn't that what we all are?

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