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May 13, 2010




This is such a beautiful blog about a beautiful woman--thank you for sharing it.

What an inspiration!

women's studies student

Thank you Eve, so so much. These are the standards of love and growth we should all be living by.

Thomas Babcock DO

Such a lovely story about a remarkable woman with a gift and a willingness to, in a sense, turn that gift into a career. I can understand why many women today, with their career obligations, may not be able to fully participate in life in this way, but the story appears to have a message that resonate: the importance of loving one another, of investing personally in our day to day interations with others (often strangers), as well as the importance in marriage of "harmony" over "perfection." In a sense, "perfection" is such a self-centered perspective, since each of us has a different concept of what this is.


This reminds me of an excerpt from "No Future Without Forgiveness" by Desmond Tutu, about the concept of ubuntu. It says, "Ubuntu is very difficult to render into a western language. It speaks to the very nature of being human. When we want to give high praise to someone we say 'Yo, u nobuntu;' 'Hey, so-and-so has ubuntu.' It is to say, 'my humanity is caught up, is inextricably bound up, in yours.' We belong in a bundle of life. We say, 'a person is a person because of other persons.' It is not, 'I think therefore I am.' It says rather, 'I am human because I belong. I participate, I share.' A person with ubuntu is open and available to others, affirming of others, does not feel threatened that others are able and good, for he or she has a proper self-assurance that comes from knowing that he or she belongs in a greater whole and is diminished when others are humiliated or diminished, when others are tortured or oppressed, or threatened, or treated as if they are less than they are."


Any chance you remember the 10 Commandments Lady J. read that day? I would love to hear her wisdom about marriage and parenthood. I've read several of your blog entries. All so good. I really appreciate the message you are communicating. Thanks!


Jenny, here is an article on the same topic from the same tradition:


Lady J said that she has given talks on each "commandment" and that one cannot fully appreciate the meaning of each one without a full discussion, but I did write them down and find them helpful to look at from time to time. Here they are:

1. Respect
2. Patience
3. Tolerance
4. Trust
5. Spouse Priority
6. Sharing
7. Love
8. Giving
9. Praising
10. Saying "Sorry"

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