I want to tell you about my shopping experience today. Apparently I've inadvertently created a whole new use for those ultra-short Spring dresses by mistaking one for a skirt! In this case it happens to have been a LBD (little black dress), but on me it's going to be a LBS, or long black skirt.
I didn't discover my "mistake" until I was paying for it when the clerk asked me how it fit. I was explaining to her how excited I was to find a comfortable skirt that hit below the knee but above the calf since I can never, ever find skirts like that. She said, "Oh, you didn't try it as a dress? It's a dress." I started laughing and said there was no way that was going to work as a dress on me. I'm 5'9! I still bought it and it makes a fantastic skirt, except for the location of the pockets that I hadn't noticed, which hit just above my knee, lol.
Anyway, I thought it was a humorous turn of events and a good modest trick just in time for Spring.
Clothes have a been an obsession of mine from early childhood. I always loved crazy, bright and unique things, and especially loved standing out in the crowd. I remember my mother and grandmother complaining because I didn't go for the more traditional fashions they favored for me. The running joke was that if you want to buy something for Melissa, just look for the most obnoxious patterns and colors you can find and she'll be sure to love it. Looking back on some mortifying pictures of myself as a young girl, I'm afraid they were right.
I'm hopeful that my tastes have evolved since then, though I still enjoy pieces that are unique and special. And while I now HATE standing out in a crowd (I'd rather receive attention for whom I am than what I'm dressed in), if my clothing gets noticed from time to time, I don't mind.
I was so happy to see other commenters on my last post share that they too are modest fashionistas and have found ways to successfully combine modesty and style.
"I think there is hope. I've been a
fashionista for as long as I can remember, but I did not start out
modestly. I only came to discover the importance of this through a hard
learned lesson, and ever since, I have been a modestly dressed
fashionista. I do not think my standards for style have been diminished
by my new found virtue. If anything, it has increased my creativity. High
fashion and modesty go together quite beautifully."
In the meantime I'm wondering if there are any specific tricks or tips you've learned that you'd like to share? Camis and t-shirts worn under revealing tops are one common strategy. And I agree with the commenter who suggested that pants or leggings be worn under dresses. I've seen this done really well by women who simply throw a pair of jeans under a cute dress and call it A Look. It's a great look if you ask me, though I've yet to try it myself.
Thankfully I've found a few places that make shopping for cute, modest clothes a little easier. One of my favorite stores is one that's been mentioned here on Modestly Yours before, Shade Clothing. Shade is a Utah based company that specializes in modern, modest clothes for women and girls. They have a variety of categories, including swimwear, maternity as well as pieces for men and girls.
Last summer I picked up a few tank tops from Shade that were on sale for $2.99, an absolute steal. These particular tanks were especially nice because instead of being tight with narrow straps like typical tanks, they were loose, with a higher neckline, wide straps and smaller arm holes to help keep you more concealed. I wear them year round with a cardigan on colder days or by themselves when it's warm.
Tell me what you do. Is style more or less important than staying modest? Is it always possible to have both or do you have to make sacrifices? How do you decide what's modest when the lines start to get blurry (like in the case of swimwear).
I'm looking forward to hearing from you!