I was so happy to see Koni Garafalo's post Here For YOU earlier this week. Ironically, I had been thinking about some of the same ideas that Koni mentioned for my own post today, specifically the idea of mentoring.
The other night, I hosted a little get together at my home for some of my girlfriends. One of my guests was a woman named Rebecca who I met several years ago at my church. She was the mentor assigned to me at our church's mothers group. At the time I didn't realize how much her friendship was going to mean to me in the coming months and years. I now consider her one of my dearest friends. Seeing her again reminded me of how special she is to me and why.
Sixteen months ago I gave birth to a darling little girl. Shortly after her birth I started experiencing panic attacks and insomnia. I tried to deal with those things on my own for about three months before finally surrendering to the truth that I was suffering from Postpartum Depression.
Those three months were the darkest time of my life. I tried to be okay, but on the inside I was sinking. I thought the anxiety and exhaustion would never let up. But it was women like Rebecca who stepped in when I needed them to help ease my suffering. In fact, going through the experience highlighted for me just how much I needed the help and support of older, more experienced women in my life. Medication and counseling helped set me on the right path for recovery, but without the outpouring of emotional and practical support (like hugs, cards, meals, babysitting, and lots of prayers) offered to me by the various women mentors in my life (including my mom and mother-in-law) I don't think I'd be in the place I am now....healthy, happy and humbled.
I too will stand with Koni and say that I'm here. I know what it's like to need someone. I know what it's like to be at the end of your rope and unable to tie that proverbial knot. I was fortunate to have older, wiser and caring women to tie one for me. I offer the same hope to you. If you can't tie a knot, let someone else do it for you. Reach out and don't be ashamed. If there's anything I've learned from expereince with depression it's that the worst thing you can do is try and beat it on your own.
Blessings to you all.