Picture the scene: several American tourists sit around a Shabbos table in Jerusalem. The hostess is both fashionably dressed and covered from head to toe. She's admired in the community for her generosity and for her artistic talents. You'd never know that she used to be a model, admired for her long legs and as an "awesome party girl." The tourists ask questions and don't hold back. The girl with long blonde hair asks, "Do you have less self-esteem now that men don't stare at you?"
Good question. To many people in our postmodern times, self-esteem is all about sex appeal. The former model, now a wife and mother, said she's not interested in having strange men stare at her. She wants to be valued instead for her accomplishments, because those were earned.
Ladies, consider whether you would prefer to be complimented on: your long legs or your achievements. Of course a healthy body is itself an accomplishment. But if our self-esteem is foremost tied to the look of our bodies, will we focus more on improving our character traits or our abs?