About seven years ago at Williams College, a dozen members of the Catholic Students Association were losing patience with being a minority voice for modesty on campus. They discussed the possibility of leaving en mass for a Catholic university where they would be taken more seriously.
The school year is starting. Young men and women who want to live modestly at the typical universities often feel like they are putting themselves in danger zones. This blog has seen several articles recently about on-campus pressures towards promiscuity. Young women who wish to live modestly while at university face a most difficult challenge.
This message is for modest students everywhere – you don’t have to remain in the danger zone. Sexual hazing, distribution of prophylactics, pressures towards promiscuity – this is not normal! It’s certainly not healthy. You don’t have to buy into it, and you have the right to a healthy environment.
Consider this as well – the most important take-aways from college are your contacts, and the development of your philosophy for living. If you are out of sync with your school, you’re missing out its real value.
Young women starting the new year, please know that it’s not easy, but you do have options. Move off-campus. Spend junior year “abroad” at a school where there is more diversity--real diversity of lifestyles, that is. If you want to make the papers, gather your modest friends and start a support group on campus! Develop a relationship with your local chaplain or rabbi, and ask advice. If you email me at firstname.lastname@example.org I’ll research options for your situation.
I wish all of our students a healthy--and modest--new year.