Hi everyone! This is my first post, so it is very nice to meet all of you.
I recently finished a month-long summer program in Israel. My peers and I shared many interesting conversations on the topic of modesty because my clothing style (skirts beneath my knees and sleeves that cover my shoulder) were not exactly the most comfortable way to be dressing in 110 degree weather. "Why", they would ask me, "do you torture your self like this?" I would then explain how my dress assures me that people appreciate my mind, not my body, and how really, it is not all that bad.
One conversation sticks out in my mind more than others. It was still the first week and everyone was still getting to know each other. A couple of kids decided to sneak out and party with the locals while others slept and still others sat up and talked among ourselves. I was in the last category. The conversation turned to moral limits and why we choose to be more conservative than our friends who were our drinking and doing who knows what with the boys.
My friend turned to me and confided, "In my school, the freshmen are hazed based on whether they are virgins or not. The virgins are then pressured to lose that status as quickly as possible. I can't take the pressure anymore! This was what I was trying to get away from at home and I just ran right back into it."
I found several things wrong with this statement. Firstly, why is there hazing, secondly, why should she worry about satisfying what others believe is a healthy sexual lifestyle, but thirdly, WHY SHOULD ANYONE EVEN BE PRESSURED INTO DIVULGING THAT KIND OF INFORMATION ABOUT THEMSELVES??