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August 23, 2007

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Alexandra Foley

Erin, How happy I am to think of you being a teacher to young women in Boston. What a great testimony you will be to them of the living the Good Life -- and not being a bitter person who feels mistreated by life and has no love for their students. Having gone to an all girls Catholic school in Boston, I know whereof I speak! Never was chastity taught to us. Never did we get the message that we were worth waiting for. The environment wasn't hyper sexual (like it seems to be today) but there was a emptiness there. So because we weren't bolster by good examples of women and armed with reasons why we were not just pieces of meat, most girls, sadly, feel into unhealthy relationships. I was lucky, but mostly because I had parents who taught me my true value.

Ann

The whole thing makes me both sad and sickened. I grew up in a well-to-do suburb of a large city and saw a lot of the drug and sex society happenings in high school - the poor little rich kids as I called them then. My parents pushed us to do well in school, but never talked about the sex/relationship issues with us. Somehow I've grown into a 42 year old woman who is still saving herself for marriage and am a senior engineer and living quite comfortably. I credit my friends with values and my faith for leading me down this road. I see many of my peers struggling with divorce, the pursuit of materialism, etc. I wish they could see there is something more...

Sabina

Hi all,

Well I'm a Muslim girl who went to a Catholic high school. Though I come from quite a conservative part of the world and most people's parents (Christian students included)weren't that comfortable with them having boyfriends, it was strange when I started wearing hijab how shocked and even angry my friends became. I couldn't for the life of me think what I had done.

I guess my best friend thought that we had finally had a shot at boys (since we started to have a few co-ed classes in religious studies, of all things) and here I was getting all religious and spoiling the "fun". Though what fun she wanted to have, I don't know. I don't want to be friends with someone who can't get past my physical appearance and that's a principle I'm glad I stuck to.

Other friends asked why I'd changed. I couldn't tell them why. I just had.

Eventually they settled down and so did I. Some had boyfriends (usually against their parents' wishes) and some didn't. I was always there to talk about it. Some made good decisions and some made bad decisions. Very few seemed to be thinking about their heart and about the future. And this is what worried me most of the time.

It's not that I didn't have crushes or anything. Just because I wear hijab, it doesn't mean that I'm not human. It's just that I wanted to be courted. I didn't want to fall into anyone's lap like I knew the popular girls did and some of my friends too. I don't see what was so wrong in that.

Unfortunately (I felt at the time) none of the crushes courted me. But now I'm glad...because I've met a wonderful man who showered with affection and attention and my parents love him and we'll be getting married soon, G-d willing

I'm sorry I'm not very articulate and I'm rambling on. Reading your post just made me think of how really weird it was being a teenager. Still I had a great time and I nurtured a lot of big dreams. And I think...a lot of the time that's what a long of young people are missing out on.

I know this...I'm really glad I waited.

Emily

I know of a middle school teacher who wishes her kids would just grow up, so she could teach more adult content to them!

That is insane. and sad.

Regarding parents enforcing new norms, I can only agree. I used to work in a restaurant that had a floorshow for adults. It was comedy, but fairly crude, ... so not 'adult' really, more peurile but let's say it was for over 18's. No nudity but a lot of sexual, smutty jokes and some risque costuming. However, we could not specify no kids allowed, could only say 15+ as a recommendation and warn parents of content to discourage them bringing younger kids. BUT PEOPLE WOULD INSIST ON BRINGING CHILDREN as young as 6. I would tell them that the show contained overt sexual references and in three years only one person DIDN'T say something along the lines of "Oh kids today they're fine they listen to Eminem/watch r-rated movies/sell eachother crack cocaine outta their lunchboxes. Kidding about the last part but only just. I always wanted to yell back 'Kids do what their parents let them do! IT'S THE PARENT'S JOB TO SET BOUNDARIES!' But you know, customer service, you can't do that :o) And really, these were not wackadoo weirdo people who came to restaurant. there is just this incredible lack of understanding that exposing children to this stuff so young is inappropriate.

And my favourite excuse for bringing primary-school aged children and exposing them to stuff meant for grown ups? "Oh it goes right over their heads." Please, your children absorb more than you think. Seeing some of them on the dancefloor after the show made you want to call the relevant government department.

Lanam

Ann, I just want to say what a unique treasure you are!

Praying for the best for you.

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