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July 30, 2007


mary o'hayes

Thanks very much for letting us know about Anafghat, that's an amazing story. May that organization continue its important work, and may Anafghat rest in peace.

Sandy Brown

That was a very inspirational story. There are some horrific things going on with girls and women and to see the great stories of people making a difference is so encouraging. I just read an eye-opening book, just published called Not For Sale, which details what is going on in our world with many women and children. But is also is interspersed with stories of groups and people making a change and ideas to help. I highly recommend it.


Liz, Thank you for writing about this. You hit the very foundation of what the modesty movement is reaching for -- the fulfillment of a girl's deepest destiny by creating an environment where her heart can guide both her dreams and her choices in life, but especially her passions and love. Instead of what Anafghat had and what our culture has in a very different form -- a culture that sexualizes a girl's youth, denounces her hope for dignity in love and thus takes away a girl's future and her choices and crushes her goals. I think some arms of the modesty movement can sometimes become focused on rules and rigidity and risk becoming a caricature of the original intent -- in the end, it is about dignity and the freedom to choose a future in both life and love. Your writing, as always, nails it right on the very deepest needs of love. Thank you.

Erin P

Wow Liz - thank you for sharing and for Anafghat's beautiful example.

Human trafficking and sexual coercion are topics I feel both modesty-niks and more sexually progressive liberals could agree on and work toward alleviating. Do you agree?

Do you know of any good organizations that support these causes?

One of the challenging things comes with cultural expectations though when it comes to marrying young girls in some countries. How do we challenge or educate on that when there are cultural or religious traditions (e.g. arranged marriages) in place?


Wow, and to think we complain about our parents and boyfriends. None of us have been forced into a marrige...especially not at 11 years old. This is a really good opportunity to be thankful for
a)our parents

b)our God

c) the country we live in


She wasn't forced into the marriage. She was poor she married a man that gave her a camel as a wedding gift.

How is that a forced marriage?


African, because she was a child. Children should not be married. Period. And I doubt she actively sought out that marriage.

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