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June 26, 2007


Allison Shapiro

Mazel tov, Wendy! You should go from strength to strength and your book should inspire a new generation of women (and men).


Oooh, it's out today? Huzzah, I must run by the bookstore!


Just read the first chapter from your site. Woohoo! I can see I'll have to buy enough to distribute! Thank you for writing the books that say what so many of us think.

Alexandra Foley

I can't wait to read it, Wendy. I've dropped plenty of hints for it for my birthday, but if that fails, I'll rush right out and get it.
PS That is my favorite Bette Davis quote and I think I use it far too often with my bad impersonation! :)

Liz Neville

Impatiently waiting for Amazon to deliver!


Augh, my stupid bookstore didn't have it in stock! No!!!!!!! Must find another bookstore....


Just finished it! I stayed up too late last night reading. I enjoyed it very much--it was great to read about young women who are standing up for themselves. I'll recommend it to everybody. I wonder if we can have a Pure Fashion show here?


Thanks you guys! I cannot believe that you
read the entire thing already, dangermom. Did you skip around? :-)

Pure fashion has a website where you can see if they have something in your area.


Heh. No, I'm just a very fast reader. Also, I did very little housework yesterday. This is actually not a good thing, since there are guys showing up to fix my bathroom in about 10 minutes! :D


Just found a copy here in CT.


I think this is a subject that needs to given plenty of attention in a mainstream way. I read Return To Modesty recently and really cried in recognition. I think Modesty and self respect are key in a womans happiness. I used to really worry about my "prudishness" despite being raised in a family where I was encouraged to say no to sex until marriage, I wanted to be more casual about it so many times but only because I thought it would be the key to belonging.
I have had a couple of, minor, sexual experiences before meeting my now husband but these were reticent and now I feel very grateful for my natural reserve and regret all the time I spent pretending to be someone different. Every young girl should read your books. I think teenagers should remember that they can recover from one or two mistakes also. It's a difficult society to grow up in.


I just bought the book, Wendy! I couldn't wait for the paperback. :) Thank you for everything.


Ms. Shalit,
I actually spoke to you today on The Diane Rehm show. I called concerning babies and bikinis and actually wrote about your "appearance" on Rehm's show on my blog today. You definitely gave me a lot to think about today.



I was so excited when I happened to hear you on Diane Rehm yesterday (I hadn't known that you were coming out with a new book) that I went straight to the bookstore and bought a copy. Your last book was a major inspiration for a talk I gave to high school girls this past year on healthy relationships with each other and with guys. So far I'm really appreciating your focus in this new book on the deterioration of friendship, especially between women. I also intend to send along a few choice passages to my alma mater, which recently loosened its parietals and its single-sex dorm policy. Most of my fellow alumni are disappointed with this decision, but it seems like we are fighting the same battle as you describe in your book: it is baby-boomer administrators who are making these decisions, defending themselves by telling us that young people are doing these things anyway, and the old policies were apparently driving away desireable students. I could go on (this is a real pet peeve) but instead I'll just say thanks so much for your work and the inspiration you give to young women.

Aaron Kinney

Indulgence leasds to satisfaction, but repression leads to compulsion. Did they ever teach you that in philosophy class?

The only thing worse than being a whore is being a prude.


Wendy, I hope this book is as much of a benefit to society, in many ways, as your first one was. Thank you for being a needed voice in today's culture.



Did you read Wendy's book? She's not advocating repression or prudishness - she's trying to find a middle road in between indulgence and repression. Isn't a balance a good thing?

Brian Gillin

Ms. Shalit, I've seen your books before and heard you today on THE LAURA INGRAHAM SHOW. I'm glad you have a blog, because I have something to ask you.

I have no problem with the message of modesty or chastity. I agree that sex has too prime a place in our culture, and that the other things in life aren't given enough weight. But I'm always troubled by the gender-specific aspect I see permeating the modesty movement.

When people suggest that the onus of modesty is on girls alone, they are a.) unfair to girls, who are given all of the responsibility, and b.) insulting to boys, who are being told that they're horny creatures who need help from girls to help control their wild male impulses.

We need to get beyond these stereotypes that men/boys are visual and sexual, whereas women/girls are emotional. In real life, each person has his or her own levels of importance for each thing. Plenty of females act wildly when seeing scantily clad males, and plenty of females strongly desire sex. We must no longer pretend that, every time a male and female have sex, he must have pressured her until she finally capitulated.

We applaud girls who say they're not looking to have sex at this time, and then we laugh at the boys who say the same thing.

Again, I'm fine with part of your objective you have; I merely wish you'd make your message more gender-neutral.

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