A friend of mine sent me this wonderful article by Dawn Eden, a former groupie who had scores of casual sex encounters, then realized the harm she was doing to herself and became chaste. It is a fascinating read, and tremendously encouraging.
Here are a few of my favorite quotes from the article:
But in all that casual sex, there was one moment I learnt to dread more than any other. I dreaded it not out of fear that the sex would be bad, but out of fear that it would be good. If the sex was good, then, even if I knew in my heart that the relationship wouldn’t work, I would still feel as though the act had bonded me with my sex partner in a deeper way than we had been bonded before. It’s in the nature of sex to awaken deep emotions within us, emotions that are unwelcome when one is trying to keep it light.
Women are built for bonding. We are vessels and we seek to be filled. For that reason, however much we try and convince ourselves that it isn’t so, sex will always leave us feeling empty unless we are certain that we are loved, that the act is part of a bigger picture that we are loved for our whole selves not just our bodies.
The misguided, hedonistic philosophy which urges young women into this kind of behaviour harms both men and women; but it is particularly damaging to women, as it pressures them to subvert their deepest emotional desires. The champions of the sexual revolution are cynical. They know in their tin hearts that casual sex doesn’t make women happy. That’s why they feel the need continually to promote it.
The author is very insightful--and she has a great blog called the Dawn Patrol! Her book, The Thrill of the Chaste came out this past December. I can't remember if she has been mentioned on this blog before, but she certainly deserves a shout-out!
Here's some more interesting stuff related to Dawn Eden:
Hope she inspires you as much as she does me!