« Nick Cannon Take Three | Main | State-Approved Kidnapping »

January 16, 2007



Well, my resolution is to write a blog soon on modest discourse.....

in terms of real things, maybe everyone is trying to keep their aspirations
hidden because then there is more of a hidden



Wendy, perhaps our readers are simply being modest :)

You pose an interesting dilemma about modern discourse. Secret aspirations are granted a special blessing. But an inspirational story is surely a merit to the storyteller.

I was thinking of my days as a diet coach when I asked about resolutions. But perhaps modest living isn't the same thing as giving up potatoes and butter. Dear readers, share your stories or keep them secret, it's up to you!


Even though you half said it in jest, I think you are right that modest people are QUIETLY resolving to be more modest. It somehow may feel at first a bit ostentatious to publicly display how modest one plans to be.

With the risk of sounding immodest I'll take a stab at describing a resolution I have: I am trying to be modest AND take kickboxing classes. This is a challenge. The kickboxing classes are counterintuitive (very un-me--I prefer tennis, dance, and yoga) but my psyche needs more intense physical movement. So I wear long baggy pants and long baggy shirts to the classes. My resolution: be modest and wild at the same time.


Well, I managed to get an etiquette book from 1881; I'm hoping to learn to be more pleasant, less "boisterous", and more graceful. We shall see!


Well, I'm not sure if this connects with modesty, but on reflection I think it might. I've been reading a great book recently in which the author talks about learning to say "no" at the right times so that we can say a "yes" to something better later on. She was talking about time management, and my "resolutions", such as they are, (they're more priority-settings than resolutions, which seem made to be broken) are mostly about time and money. Now that I'm a parent, those two resources are scarer than ever and need even better stewardship.

So... I'm giving up going back to sing in two choirs (which I love) until my MA thesis is finished (hopefully this summer), and my husband and I have decided to stay in our 1-bedroom apartment for another year and save the extra rent money towards buying a house (hopefully the year after).

The modesty connection? Well, I think that modesty, like thrift, is too often perceived as saying no to things, when in fact it can allow us to embrace more lasting and/or significant things, and on a deeper level.



I'd be interested in a sampling of your thoughts on "modest discourse," Wendy, if you have the chance to post something.

Ellen :)


Joi - An etiquette book from 1881. How delightful! I wish you ever increasing grace and pleasantness throughout this year.

Elin - What a fascinating insight about modesty! Yes, modesty often means saying no in the short term, so that the space is open for more lasting and significant things.

Living in a smaller apartment is certainly modest, as is saving money to build a home for your family. Thank you for the inspiration on stewarding both time and money, for the greater goals of stewarding family and career!

The comments to this entry are closed.