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May 24, 2006

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anon

Lily, I've got your "amen" and then some!

Just the other day I was speaking with a friend of mine who was talking seriously about entering a convent, due to a large extent, by a feeling of hopelessness with men. I had to assure of the very same thing you're reminding us of. Thank you for YOUR courage to wait for a man who meets your standards.

CountryGoalie

AMEN!

I heard a very similar statement to the one made by your pastor on a video series that went over some of the things Joshua Harris says in his "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" series in reference to 'physical contact' in courtships.

It's a very true statement.

Lucie

Lily, you can indeed get an "Amen"! I hope that this man is indeed all you want. Blessings to you in this relationship, however it may turn out.

wendy

Lily, I just checked out your journal entries over there and noticed that you broke an ankle or something a little over a month ago?! OK, I know I'm going to sound like your mother, but I hope you won't push yourself too hard. You've already done so much work in raising money for others; don't forget to take care of yourself, too...

Good luck & keep us posted!

xoxo,
Wendy

p.s. This gentleman sounds like a keeper. If your bike has a large basket, maybe you could take him with you. :-)

Kindli

Assume that the person you're with right now is NOT the person you will end up marrying. Assume that the person you WILL end up marrying is somewhere 'out there', in his own romantic relationship. What are you comfortable with knowing your future husband is doing with another woman? Take your answer and apply it to your own behavior. So your sexual activities relate not only to the respect you have for yourself but also to that which you have for your spouse-to-be. Pretty perfect way to look at it.

very true, very well put, I whole heartedly agree.

kasey

You make a perfectly reasonable point:

"Assume that the person you're with right now is NOT the person you will end up marrying. Assume that the person you WILL end up marrying is somewhere 'out there', in his own romantic relationship. What are you comfortable with knowing your future husband is doing with another woman? Take your answer and apply it to your own behavior."

But what if ... what if I just don't care if any potential partner of mine has sex with people other than me? What if his or her previous activities are not a source of judgment or dislike in contemplating seeing him or her?

You cannot make a relativist subjective statement and then create an absolute conclusion out of it. Telling all women to wait, to

"Resist the temptation to give over a most precious jewel of yours out of frustration or impatience. Wait for a prince. Can I get an AMEN? :-)"

only works for those women who want it, yet you're preaching all all women who might happen across this blog.

*shrug*

shrugging back

never got how people always preach their "not caring" to others, but get offended when others articulate their caring.

Lily

Response to kasey:

I do not mean to make a blanket statement. Simply, if you are comfortable with your future lifelong partner being sexually active with one or multiple partner(s) before she/he is with you, then that's fine. It's measured by each woman's (or man's) level of comfort. And when I "preach" to "resist the temptation..." I hardly intend it to be directed at ALL women. Please do not consider it an "absolute conclusion". It's a suggestion, based on my personal experience. Every entry I have posted or in the future post is not meant to judge or PREACH. I'm not an ordained minister or a licensed counselor. My findings are merely based on my own life's adventures.

Seven

From Texas to Alaska?
oh yeah~
what a long journey!
so cool
i wanna

hello Lily,i'm a Chinese boy
i wanna make friend with u--
cool girl

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