My hubby wrote this in his book Chicken Soup with Chopsticks: A Jew's Struggle for Truth in an Interfaith Relationship, and I thought it might be worth quoting here:
"Generally speaking, the naked female body is extremely alluring to men, and the male sexual drive is most powerful and difficult to control. When a man is exposed to reasonably attractive, half-clothed women, he is distracted by sexual fantasies. Over the long run, by being repeatedly subjected to such images (on television, at the grocery check-out, at the office, in the bus, or on the street, especially on hot summer days), his sexual sensitivity is dulled, and the capacity to give and receive sexual pleasure from the woman he is committed to is diminished...
Judaism views the sexual experience as one of the most wonderful gifts from the Creator, the primary purpose of which is to help bond and strengthen the relationship between husband and wife. As with any valuable or precious gift, sex must be scrupulously bulwarked to prevent it from being defiled.
Once a man and a woman have committed themselves to each other through marriage, a genuine spiritual bond is created between them. Romantic dinners and moonlight walks and erotic lovemaking will then express and further cement it. Done at the proper time (after the wedding), in the proper place (complete privacy), with the proper person (spouse), and with the proper intention (to give pleasure to the other), the sexual experience becomes nothing less than holy."
In the meantime, have a happy and safe New Year! A close Christian friend told me that he appreciates Hannukah, because if it wasn't for Hannukah, there would have been no Jesus. So, happy Hannukah to everyone!