Recently, I heard a radio advertisement that left me sad and frustrated with the sorry state of our society, and the emphasis it places on that particular body part as a deciding factor of attractiveness. The advertisement was about a cream that after applied to the relative area, would enhance breast size. The actual product made me laugh because everyone knows that these creams don't work (otherwise we wouldn't have plastic surgery).
But what made me sad was the girl on the advertisement claiming, "Now that I have larger breasts, I feel more attractive and have a higher self-esteem." Or "I feel so much better about myself, because more men look at me."
Why is it that women feel the need to idealize the pin-up model? And apply it to their own self-image and idea of beauty? Why do women view themselves as more attractive when they flaunt their sex appeal, rather than their self-appeal?
I feel that women today have lost their true sense of self, and try to measure up to whatever it is they think will get them the attention they crave. Women crave to be attractive and I think that is something that will never change, nor do I think it should. The only question is how do women hope to gain that attraction. By enhancing and drawing attention to parts of their bodies that are primarily sexual, they are presenting themselves as sex objects and allowing others to see their sex rather than their being. Every woman wants to be considered beautiful, but by only focusing on their outer selves, they are negating their own true beauty that lies beneath the surface.
Self esteem should not be found in how much attention can be directed at a sexy body or how many men “checked-out” or whistled at a girl that day. It should be found in being someone you as well as others would take a genuine interest in knowing. Being someone you yourself are proud to be.