Okay. So I'm not much of a TV watcher, but every once in a while I'll find myself up late at night - either yapping on the phone to friends, or up writing the likes of this Blog - and, to keep me company/for background noise, I may also have the TV on. No channel in particular, as I'm not really watching, - just whichever channel I may have watched the news on beforehand.
But a couple of nights ago, I hung up the phone and actually did start to pay attention for a bit to what was showing on my TV screen. Desperation. Scarcely clad desperation. And insecurity.
I must say, I've never really seen it in such obvious, unashamed form, and, more than being repulsed by the people embodying those traits on-screen, I really and truly felt sorry for them. Sorry for them and our society that encourages them and allows this to be.
For those of you who have not been 'fortunate' enough to watch it, the show I am referring to is 'ElimiDATE'. It is a reality-show which sets one guy amid four eligible, single girls in a dating setting of sorts, whereby the guy has the chance to shop his preferred girlfriend/date from the selection of girls before him.
The girls, on the other hand, are put in a position where they have to prove their eligibility and worth (largely in terms of physicality) to a guy who is probably not worth the seat he is sitting on. And yet, it is both laugh and cry worthy to watch as the girls brag, 'bitch', and beg their way around this guy, literally baring their bodies and what is left of their souls to win him over.
What I'm seriously left wondering, though, is how it could be possible to come out of such a competition feeling a winner even if you were the final girl? Could it honestly be gratifying knowing that you were the quickest, easiest, cheapest (no pun intended) date? That the guy had to do nothing at all to win you over, as you threw your self at his feet? That you were willing to give it all not being guaranteed anything at all in return?
These girls may be 'out there' (literally) to find their guy, but it might be helpful, I'd think, if they first found themselves.
While the show may be dubbed ElimiDATE, playing on its goal in the sense that the main-character must eliminate his dates, I'd venture that the only thing eliminated on the show is self-esteem.
And, if 'the industry' moguls were not just thinking of which mansion they'd like to build today, which island they'd like to conquer tomorrow, they might do well to focus on some of yesterday's morals and try to inculcate them in the likes of their own sons and daughters.
But actions speak louder than words in this world. It’s no surprise, then, that the less intelligent things the show-contestants have to say, the more 'action' they'll provide - to a vast segment of our society lapping it up on their couches. And, while ‘the industry’ may hold the money, it is us who have the power to change that.