Hello and welcome to my corner! I am so delighted to be part of the community created by ModestyZone.
I’ve always been a bit of a rebel, not in terms of crazy behavior but simply that I can’t abide dopey people in authority. (This has had the effect of getting me in trouble in the years before I developed my—ahem—more diplomatic ways.) What I see today streaming out of places of so-called authority gets me very upset. TV programming comes to mind. When the sex and violence gets too awful and people complain, TV executives go on defense and claim they are only giving us what we want. Well, if television didn’t help lead the culture and sell not just ideas but merchandise, why are advertisers willing to pay for airtime?
Of course television leads. Problem is the bar of taste and decency has been steadily dropping over the past few decades. People will argue that Elvis Presley caused a big stir with the rubes when he swiveled his hips on the Ed Sullivan Show. But if you cannot see a difference between what Elvis did and the flat-out pornography that constitutes most of MTV’s daily dose, I need to direct you to the optometrist.
I’ve always been sensitive to crudity and violent images, but when my kids came along, my reactions became more urgent. When they are very small, kids get Barney (if you can stand it) and nice little kid stuff. But the culture starts creeping in very early. What was once the province of twenty-somethings is now aimed at teenagers; what used to be marketed to teens is now shoved at the “tweens”, 7-12 year olds. Lindsay Lohan is only 18 and she’s already gone from plump, cute, freckled girl-next-door to blonde, skinny, proto-call girl and fashion slave. My 7-year-old daughter used to adore her but she’s put off by something she can’t articulate; the music CD she got for her birthday was first colored-in to cover Lindsay’s flashing boobs, then finally tossed in the garbage.
The culture creeps are even harder on girls than boys. First, because girls are more self-conscious and therefore more sensitive to signals about how they should look and act. Second, because they are sensitive in this way at a younger age than boys, and have fewer defenses. Finally, because these signals are telling girls to change their very natures: don’t be modest, don’t be unique, don’t be yourself. They are being molded into little servants for boys, under the guise of freedom to do what they want. My 16-year-old nephew gets legitimate offers for oral sex during the school day— this is progress for women????
We need to counter this nonsense.